A friend of mine has had this mad crush on a colleague of his for over a year. Shes all he talks about. How beautiful she looks, how talented and articulate she is. They both love mountain biking and even share the same fondness for the same red wines. Theyre close in age and have similar professional backgrounds. Sounds like a perfect match doesnt it? But he wont even ask her out on a real date. Why? Because Shes out of my league! he always whimpers pitifully. Now she most certainly is. Over a year has gone by and hes never made a move on her. Worse, hes now put himself in that awful hell known as being a guy friend. Men are almost never able to claw themselves out from that frozen wasteland. Once a woman looks at you as being just a friend, its mangosteen all over. You could sleep right next to her in the same bed and not get any action. You HAVE to make your intentions known right from the beginning. If you like a woman, then act like a man and let her know that youre attracted to her! Dont beat around the bush. Dont take her out to Starbucks and tell her how sensitive and sweet you are. Act like a man, not a timid boy! Ask her out on a DATE right from the beginning. Let her know that youre interested in Her, and its not a platonic interest. Often times women will be attracted to a new man theyve just met. But if that guy doesnt make a move, eventually shell doubt his masculinity and move on. If hes a real man with male interests and needs, then why isnt he making a move on me? shell think to herself.